Fusion Stories - 12. Blackpool, Mon Amour by Guest Blogger Angie Macdonald
My partner Angie Macdonald is from South Africa and after watching me blog from the sidelines, she has been inspired to contribute this Fusion Story about her experiences of reverse migration:
It was only when I emigrated to England that I finally came to understand my father. As an Englishman in Africa, my father never
fitted in. He was conspicuous in his baggy safari suits and pale skin that blistered pink in the sun. His broad Lancashire accent with its clipped vowels contrasted starkly with the leisurely pace of Durban English and the rolling r’s and throat-scraping sounds of Afrikaans. As for Zulu, he never even attempted it.
In South Africa, men love sports, drinking beer and cooking meat on a braai. My father is a trainspotter, does not believe in exercise, and a strict vegetarian. He embraced conservatism and the politics of apartheid, but beyond that he has always been an outsider.
In England he would fit right in with the tea drinkers and people discussing the weather and obsessing about bowel movements. He would find many to share his hatred of Maggie Thatcher and his passion for trains. Yet, since leaving England over fifty years ago, my father has never returned to his roots. And I have never heard him speak of England as ‘home’.
Like my father, I always felt an outsider in South Africa. I rejected the role of a typical South African ‘lady’ and drank beer from a bottle, wore trousers instead of floral dresses, cropped my hair and rode a motorbike. I dressed in black and preferred women to men. Culturally, I longed to be in England, to see the bands I admired like The Cure and The Sisters of Mercy, to be able to go to the National Theatre and take my pick of bookshops on the Charing Cross Road. I was prepared to reject sub-tropical heat and eternal sunshine for the chance to wear a black trench coat and Doc Martin boots in the middle of an English winter.
I thought that when I came to England I would fit right in. I spoke the same language, had similar cultural references, English blood flowed through my veins. It would be like coming home.
I was wrong. Fourteen years later and I am still unsure where to call ‘home’. I speak of my past life ‘back home’ and yet I feel that my home is firmly in South London, with YM. For the first few years I was here, I suffered an identity crisis; I did not know where I belonged, nor did I feel any particular sense of belonging. In London, my accent marked me as an outsider. I had no shared past with anyone – I had not gone to school or university during the Thatcher years or experienced the bleakness of ‘70s Britain. No British TV programmes were shown in South Africa because of the Equity ban so there were no cultural references there. I had to get used to things like travelling on the underground, miles instead of kilometres, pounds and pence. Bank holidays and sandwich shops. And the fact that here I was one of many. There were no privileges because of the colour of my skin.
When I went back to Durban on holiday, I felt I no longer belonged there either. Being away meant that I had changed. I had experienced the challenges of starting life in a new country while my friends had continued with their lives as they were. And Durban had changed too. There were new roads, new shopping malls. Things that I had never been part of. My favourite restaurants, bars and clubs were no longer there and with them my history had vanished. Wiped out.
But I am gradually getting used to my new life. Now I pepper my speech with ‘i’n’it’ and say ‘all right?’ in place of ‘hello’. I indulge in long detailed conversations about the weather and enjoy gardening and listening to BBC Radio 4. I own a pair of wellies and numerous umbrellas. I have even eaten my sandwiches in the rain. In short, I think I am turning English.
And when I travel abroad I think of myself as a ‘Londoner’. I start missing winding cobbled streets, cosy pubs, ancient buildings and buses that run all night. I miss all the other people like me: the immigrants, with their different cuisines and exotic languages, and I become homesick.
Yet, there are still moments when I am at the seaside, or smell steak cooking on a BBQ and hear the life-affirming beat of the African Jazz Pioneers, when I long for my life in South Africa, for the sky and the sun and the sense of space and friends and the good times we shared. And with that comes sadness and nostalgia, and a deep knowing that, like my father, I have left that life behind. Forever.
Written by Guest Blogger Angie Macdonald
Posted by Yang-May Ooi on Thursday, September 7th, 2006 at 8:31am







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